Saturday, August 16, 2008

ok, now what -revised

So I have been thinking a lot lately about what we will do on September 17th and that days that follow. Each time I have a baby it gets more and more tricky.

Since I have C sections Andy really has no option not going and staying with me. Plus I really like it that way. There are times when I cannot get up or get the baby and a nurse isn't there right when I need her that Andy really is needed. The problem is what do we do with our other "babies" while we are gone having another baby?

I have thought and thought about this all this week. Honestly it was only this week that I have really paid attention to it and only now because Tuesday night I spent the night at the hospital, but that is a whole other story. So this week I have been racking my brain trying to come up with some great scenario...but guess what? there isn't one.

My mom is taking off a week to help me out which sounds heavenly. So I am trying to figure out what would be best- her being here with the kids for 3-4 days while we are in the hospital or wait and get good "use" out of her when I return home with a new baby.

Here are my thoughts right now.

Have Andy's sister come Tuesday night since we need to be at the hospital at 5:30 Wednesday morning. My mom and Andy will be at the hospital all day on Wednesday. Then my mom would come home get the kids, relieving Michelle, and bring them up to see baby and mama. Then from there they would all go home and someone ??? would stay with them Thursday and Friday...who I don't know. The that weekend probably Friday night they would all go to someones house. Probably Bennett and Maddox would go to my parents and then J and C would go somewhere else. Andy and I would come home on Saturday and have till Sunday to kind of be with the baby ourselves and sleep. Then Monday hits the kids come home and my mom comes to save the day. Andy will be off that whole week too. Should my mom not come till the next week? Oh gosh, the dilemma...

I know this probably sounds confusing and you are all thanking your lucky stars this isn't your problem, but writing it all out somehow makes me feel a little bit better. Well for now at least.

In other news I got to spend the evening in the hospital Tuesday night. I was having some major cramping and contractions and called the doctor even though I really really didn't want to, and they told me to go into to L and D. Blah...yuck! I knew he wasn't coming, but still just to be positive we went. It was actually a night out for us and kind of fun to be honest. The poking and prodding were not, but fun none the less. It did kind of get me excited for whats in store for us in four short weeks. I love LOVE the hospital stay and I honestly think that is part of what gets me baby hungry so quick is how much I cherish those moments in the hospital. Not only is it so fun to be there being waited on and answering to no one, but those first moments with your newborn baby are just so amazing. But, anyway, I would like to not be back there till September 17th! I am praying he stays put till then, but he on the other hand seems to want out.

After writing about it all last night and sleeping on it I think I have come up with a good solution.
Tuesday night Michelle comes
Wednesday Michelle watches kids
Wednesday night my mom comes and picks up kids to see baby
Wednesday night MIL takes kids back and watches them at our house Thursday
Thursday MIL has kids at our home
Friday morning MIL has kids
Friday afternoon my mom has kids till we get home
Saturday my mom has kids
Sunday we get home and mom is here to help
Monday- Friday Andy is here while my mom works
weekend help
Monday-Friday my mom is here helping

I think this will work best. Let me tell you after one week after a C section you are not magically able to do anything. So I think while Andy is here my mom will work and then when Andy goes back to work, she can be here. I think just having her here and my MIL while we are in the hospital will be easier on me too and everyone else. Now I need to get Michelle, my mom, and my MIL on board and we will be set. I am happy to have a a little note to baby---baby stay put till the 17th especially now that I kind of know what is going on, PLEASE!


Anonymous said...

that is so nice to have all those people who love you and can help you right there.. another reason i need to move closer!! and thanks for the note i needed to hear some of that!

Jamie said...

Terica, I can't believe how soon your baby will be here! How exciting. I wish I lived close by so I could help out with the kids while you are in the hopsital etc.

It looks like you guys had a great time on your vacation. What cute kids. Bennett looks so much older now with his adult teeth in. 2nd grade? Are you sure???? Time flies.

Oh, and I love your new dining room table! So pretty. Cute curtains too.

You are such a good mom. It is fun to get caught up on your life.

Chelsey said...

I can't believe how soon your baby will be here either! Congrats! I'm completely jealous! My doctors are going to induce me at 39 weeks (Sept. 29), but I started having contractions last week and am on home IV care this week, so I'm hoping I can talk them into 38 weeks!

Good luck with arranging all of the help you need after the c-section! I can't wait to see pictures of your new baby!



Christy said...

I have C-sections too and this is why I could never have a baby without my mom. Seriously you need so much help. I think you have a good plan though. Good luck!

Fideles Five said...

Terica, how are you? I hope you have a great time in TN with your hubby! Relax and enjoy the spa!

Bonnie and Brian Wayne said...

I think we have had a conversation about how we both love being in the hospital and having babies. After #3, nothing has changed. I still love it. But it definitely is the stress of what to do with the other kids now - I totally agree with that - and you are one up on us! It gets tricky the more you have.

I hope your baby will do as you wish. I usually want all the time I can have too to mentally prepare myself.